How Do i get her to stop telling me i'm fat and making fun of me? she's suppose to be my mom?
i thought since she was my mom she was suppose to repsect me no matter what. but all she ever does is tease me about being fat and make bad comments. She did the same last year when i had an Ovarian cyst. the doctors think i have another. meaning once again the weight i gained wasnt my fault. yet she still makes fun of me.
ALL the time she tells me i’m fat. calls me "fatty" and "The fat daughter" even though i have a sis who is over 250 pounds!
she always makes jokes telling me i look pregnant and stuff. i’ve told her countless times that it hurts me. and she wont stop because her and her husband(my step dad) think its funny, and fun to tease me.
earlier today i found out i was babysitting, i asked my mom when the baby was comeing. she pointed to my stumach and said "why dont you tell me Fatty?"
and than got mad at me and told me to get the hell to my room because i cryed over it.
I dont see why she cant just respect me and be nice. I cant help the fact that i look huge from having an Ovarian cyst. I really cant.
I’m 17
and for the boy who asked
before i had the Ovarian Cyst. I was 130. she teased me than about looking like a boy. She always finds something. And I cant lose Weight until i have this Ovarian Cyst removed. the last one was 30 some Cm when removed. they think this one will be bigger.
Man, my mother spent my whole childhood doing this. I used to wonder why, and get upset, but then I realised that she’s the insecure one. She did it to my sister too. Used to yell at her for getting zits as a teen because ‘nobody will hire you if you’ve got acne’. FYI, Adelaide had about four spots a month, if that. My mum hated the way she looked, and was obsessed with aging. Used to spend our money on creams and injections and things, even though we were pretty poor.
Your mum is an insecure bitch who hates her self. Everything she says to you is to make her feel better about her self. Don’t pay her any mind honey, some fools have no business raising kids. Put up with it until you can move out, and just remember that she’s as pathetic and foolish as my mum is. I mean, geez, and ovarian cyst? She really should be supporting you right now. I had a scoliosis brace as a kid, my mum called me tin man and laughed at me. You’re not alone, babe.
Tell her that you clearly hate being disrespected like that, and its very irresponsible of a PARENT of all people to insult their child like that.
And when she insults you, tell her this:
"Well you created me, I must have inherited from you."
well, how much DO you weight?
oh honey. i went through alot of that to. its called verbal abuse. my mom would tell me all the time to suck in my stomach so i would look skinny. my grandma would buy me clothes then say i could have them if i wasnt to fat to wear them. the thing is i was very thin until i was 16 and started working at jamba juice. i am over weight now but im working on it. my mom always had pick on ally days then she would get mad and hit me when i said it hurt when she teased me like that.
how old are you sweetie?
im currently looking for a therapist to help me. verbal abuse is extremly hard to get over. if you ever ned anyone to talk to email me
ally.peterson79@yahoo.com
ill always help. i dont know why mother have to do that to theyre children. it isnt right. i do know that what i learned from my mother is what not to do with my kids. i havent talked to my parents in 7 months since they kicked me out for dating my bf who they say they like. makes sense right?
with parents like that you cant change the way they do things. they dont see it as wrong. talk to me. maybe i can help you with some handling techniques that helped me survive 19 years in a physically verbally and emotionally abusive household.
you should go to a therapist with your mom and your stepdad, PROVE HER WRONG!!!!!!!! and lose the weight! just imagine her face when she realizes that there’s nothing to tease you about anymore!
YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!
1. limit diet
2. exercise more often
3. eat healthier
first get rid of the problem, then your mom will have nothing to say!!! good luck:)
It’s okay. I understand how you feel. I get picked on by other people, but not my mom. Sit down and talk with her, tell her that you really don’t like how she treats you and that it’s not your fault. I am also a bit chubby and doubt you’re as "huge" as your mother teases and says you are. I have depression, a slow metabolism, gain weight easily, and come from french and italian families. Sometimes there is no way to avoid being a bit chubby.
I have seen a few pictures of a very beautiful girl who gets teased because of her weight. I can’t recall the name at the moment, but I’ll try to send you links of her pictures if I can find some. She’s a normal 15-year-old girl who posts picture blogs.
Also, think about this. Until American television came along in Fuji, it was concitered to be a sign of wealth and beauty to gain weight. Because of American freakish styles, hundreds of years of tradition is being washed down the drain because Fuji girls feel "ugly" now and suffer from anorexia bulimia.
Aren’t we Americans soooo cool? We like, starve ourselves to death and look sooo hot like a skeleton! Like, OMG!
Psh, please. Out western minds are twisted when it comes to beauty. It’s healthy to be a bit heavy and as long as you live a moderet lifestyle, you’ll live longer than those who starve themselves to be "beautiful".
Maybe your mother has low self esteme and takes it out on you. Ignore her. Also, try doing little things to naturaly improve your appearance. Like give yourself a natural facial, go for a walk, other beauty-related things. Then the next time she makes fun of you, tell her "Well at least I can lose weight. You’ll always be ugly though."
Just a thought :3
Run away with me?
I think it is really mean what your mom says to you, and is very disrespectful. Have you really sat down and told her what she says hurt’s your feeling? Tell her if she really loves you, she wouldn’t always put you down like that. She’s like a bully. From experience I’ve learned when someone is mean to other’s it’s usually because of their insecurity and something they don’t like about themselves. It’s easier to find fault in someone else then looking at themselves. Have you discussed this with your doctor? If he doesn’t believe you are overweight, have him tell your mother. Maybe she’ll believe your doctor.
If that was me, I’ll stand up for myself and tell her she’s a very mean person to say that to her daughter. Not only that, but if she tells you to do something, I wouldn’t listen. If she gets mad, just tell her if she doesn’t respect you, then you won’t respect her rules. I know it’s hurtful, but stand up for yourself. Have you considered going for counceling, and maybe your mom deal with whatever is going on with her. It’s obvious she has issues, and puts you down to make herself feel better. I wouldn’t stand for that!!